Misfit Mormons

Some time ago I visited a web site for Mormon misfits (www.misfitmormon.com). As I read through the posts there, I wondered to myself, “What kind of eldritch creatures might these ‘Morms Out of the Norm’ be?”

It seems to me just being religious in an increasingly secular society is enough to make one a misfit American. Add to that the claim of belonging to the only true church and you become a misfit Christian – a misfit among misfits. Now try and attend a temple recommend interview wearing anything but the regulation uniform and you will find yourself a misfit among misfit misfits.

The situation reminds me of a pithy aphorism my father recited for me when at the age of eleven, I was feeling particularly betrayed by the universe over some now forgotten injustice: “I wept that I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet.” Rather than being of comfort, the notion horrified me.

“What about the guy who has no legs?” I pleaded. “There you go,” my sagacious father nodded.

A dreadful vision overtook me as I imagined long, degenerative line of increasingly sad characters disappearing over the horizon to that unimaginably tragic “last guy.” (I shudder even now to write of it.)

To be a misfit Mormon seems an eminently effective way of addressing the natural desire we all have of acquiring a unique sense of individuality, but is it always a matter of choice? To choose to be a misfit comes with its own set of concerns, wishes, perceptions and drives, but what if, like Jessica Rabbit, one is just drawn that way?

The web site is gone now. These “last guys” in the long line of relgious misfits have scattered to mill about and regroup once more in ever complicated, kaleidoscopic permutations. What sad and interesting creatures these Mormon misfits must be, I think. Crazy for living. Crazy for wanting to fit and not wanting it. Crazy for holding up their misfittedness as a badge of honor that masks their shyness, their sadness and their longing. Crazy mad for all of us.

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6 Comment(s)

  1. It looks like those misfits site has been down a year? Here’s all I could get out of google cache

    Comment # 1 by Johnna Cornett | Feb 16, 2007 | Reply

  2. They are now a community on livejournal.com.

    http://community.livejournal.com/misfitmormon/profile

    Comment # 2 by Bookslinger | Feb 16, 2007 | Reply

  3. I’m a misfit from just about any angle you look at me. Sometimes it’s a bit of a drag, but most of the time I turn it around and say it really means I can fit in just about anywhere.

    Comment # 3 by Susan M | Feb 17, 2007 | Reply

  4. The scriptures lead me to believe that the misfits are the ones whom the Lord is most concerned that they are served, ministered to, and having their needs met; the meek, the poor, the poor in spirit, the despised, the dis-heartened, the blind, the lame, the deaf, the sick/hungry/naked, the widows and orphans, those with feeble knees and weak hands.

    Comment # 4 by Bookslinger | Feb 17, 2007 | Reply

  5. Great post! I think most Sunstoners are Mormon Misfits. I also wonder how much I consciously (or subconsciously) cultivate my independence (or “misfitedness”) and how much I am just “drawn that way.”

    Comment # 5 by Matt Thurston | Feb 18, 2007 | Reply

  6. I started Misfit Mormon, and actually have since left. My name on livejournal is thecause. I just felt so out of touch after a while I just didn’t like anything mormon really. I still like to see where the group is going. Eric has since closed down misfitmormon.com and moved to California, but the livejournal misfitmormon group still runs. You can read an excellent article me and Eric did on it here:

    http://www.slweekly.com/index.cfm?do=article.details&id=1CA7F159-2BF4-55D0-F1FD721F3A3339BD

    Comment # 6 by Zed aka 'Cory' | Aug 22, 2007 | Reply

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